Category Archives: girls

Dead Horses

I know I just wrote about this the other day, but I feel like I need to come back to it. I don’t know, the older I get, the more this kind of thing makes me angry.

I’m talking about women. Well, more specifically, how people view women, talk to women, behave around and towards women, how people market (or don’t market) to women. This kind of stuff has been getting a lot of attention lately, and I think that that’s a good thing. We live in a remarkably interconnected world these days, and alienating essentially half of the entire human population of the world can’t be a good idea.

I can’t fathom it. I simply do not understand. What the hell is so scary about women? This is the 21st century, for Chrissake, and we can’t even get our government to admit that women should be paid the same amount as men for the same work. We live in a place where a woman can be banned from her constitutionally protected right to free speech because she made some men uncomfortable. Bonus irony points to that last example because the women was speaking out against reproductive legislation. All the good I can say is at least they didn’t call her a prostitute for it.

I’m just boggled, I guess. I can see that this is happening; I just don’t know know why this is happening. So, if someone wants to explain it to me, I’m all ears.


You Have Failed

I don’t like to criticize other people’s parenting. What works for one family may or may not work for another family, and that’s okay. I don’t think there’s any single correct way to raise a child. Most of the time, the kids turn out pretty okay. So having said that, let me say this: parents of sons, you have failed.

Granted, not every parent of every son. But broadly, generally, yes. All of us have failed. We were so wrapped up in raising good, strong girls that we neglected to raise good, strong boys. It’s not enough to have good girls. We need to have good boys.

There is a pervasive, virulent, and (most frighteningly) casual sexism in this country. In this world. And I don’t just mean in the workforce where women still only make about 77 cents for every dollar a man makes doing comparable work, although there’s that. And I don’t just mean in trashy pop music where women are “bitches” or “hos”. Everywhere, in everything, in our very language itself, it is implied that women are less.

“Nancy-boy.” “Grow a pair.” “Don’t be a pussy.” Even, conversely, “she’s got balls.”

This doesn’t begin to cover it. And so many people don’t realize that this is a problem. They don’t realize that calling a woman a “slut” as a form of disagreement is unacceptable. They don’t understand why a woman would resent a man telling her what she can and cannot do with her own body. They don’t understand why She-Ra is sexist but He-Man isn’t. And women who speak out against sexism are called man-hating femi-nazis, dykes, sluts. They are told to shut their mouths, learn their place, get back in the kitchen. When women speak out against aggressive sexualization in the media, they are asked by detractors why then haven’t they themselves buzzed off their hair, taken off their makeup, worn figure-covering clothes. They are asked, basically, why don’t they look like men.

Is this hyperbole? No. This happens every day. Do you wonder why there isn’t gender parity in the worlds of science and technology? This is why. And this is why. And this is why. And this is why (NSFW).

So yes. We need to raise up tough, smart girls who can stand up for themselves and prove that they’re just as good. But please, for the love of God, we need to raise boys who won’t make them. Parents of sons, can we all work on that?